I wanted to write an attractive article about human sexuality or the relationship with the totality of existence for the beginning of the autumn working season 2025, but certain comments on social media related to the complete misunderstanding of the concept of unconditional love, about which I have already said a great deal in my books and other articles on this page, prompted me to return to the basics of my work. Because what’s the point of dealing with advanced stuff when there are people who consider themselves very intelligent and enlightened, yet their level of emotional intelligence is such that they consider unconditional love, no more and no less, non-existent, and my insistence on precisely such a term a reflection of my conceit.
During my presentations and public appearances, I used to hear comments from the audience like “What are you talking about, what unconditional love?” or “Well, that exists only as an idea, but who is able to live it in practice?” and similar statements. At the same time, at the mention of this concept, some of my clients would stare blankly at me as if I were speaking about some exotic branch of science, like theoretical physics, about which they have no idea whatsoever. And then I would have to literally draw for them, like for small children, to convey a completely incomprehensible idea in some way.
When it comes to the general state of spirit and consciousness of the human race, I think it doesn’t take a god-knows-what intelligence to see where we are and how low such consciousness is, and how it is getting lower every day. A significant portion of people are on the path of accelerated de-evolution and degeneration, which continues unabated, and it is a big question how far it will go. Or, as Russian (yes -RUSSIAN!) satirist Daniil Kharms would say, “Wherever I look, everywhere just unpleasant mugs.” People are gradually turning into zombies who only care about their own survival, cutting each other down, believing everything the media serves them, and agreeing to the global dystopia that is rapidly being prepared for us. So, given that this is a topic that is not clear to many, and among those many are even some of the most popular philosophers of today, like Slavoj Žižek who goes a step further from denial and declares that “love is actually evil,” let’s now once and for all establish what unconditional love is and how to express it most directly.
WHAT IS UNCONDITIONAL LOVE?
To begin with, unconditional love is a universal cosmic force. Concrete and omnipresent as a dimension of the existence of all beings, both in the manifested (material) and unmanifested (spiritual) world. It is not, therefore, just some idea or concept that we can relativize; it is a fact, a reality more real even than the physical. Unconditional love in its original edition is an abstract force that exists by itself – it is like air or water and is there regardless of whether someone breathes and drinks it or not. It is the alchemical Materia prima, and precisely for this reason, some physicists claim that unconditional love is the very essence, or original nature, of the so-called “dark energy-matter” that makes up over 99% (ninety-nine percent) of the universe in which we live, but which we cannot perceive or measure with currently existing measuring instruments. Therefore, it is also a concrete physical force, and I consider it the first subtle dimension of existence that plays an equally important, if not more important, role in our lives than the more concrete and generally known dimensions, such as time and space. Precisely for this reason, it should be known and respected, and here’s what that concretely means.
For example, if we don’t know and don’t respect the dimension of space and insist on passing through an intersection even though there’s a red light at the traffic light, there are great chances that we will injure ourselves or others, or that it will be our last passage through some intersection in this life. A person must respect space as an essential dimension of their own existence; otherwise, such disrespect will cost them their health, and perhaps even their life. The same thing is with unconditional love – it is healthy and useful, not to say necessary, to align one’s own life with it. If we don’t do this, the consequences can be just as serious as running a red light.
We can, therefore, continue to pretend to be stupid and claim that unconditional love doesn’t exist, that it is just a human concept, but not some concrete substance, and most people live exactly like that. That’s why it is not surprising that, as a civilization, we are practically in the Stone Age when it comes to emotional intelligence. In the early Stone Age, moreover, and we would like to travel the universe. Members of extraterrestrial races can hardly wait for us to mess up outer space the way we ruin the Earth. Their regular message to us, as many contactees confirm, is, “Go back, study the original principles of your own existence, know your original design, and then we’ll talk.” Until then, Earth will continue to serve as a kind of quarantine, intended to enlighten the souls who have forgotten who they are and what they are meant to be. And yes, then someone will hold us captive here without any problem, but only because we allow it, because we are too stupid to rebel and free ourselves.
However, unconditional love indeed doesn’t exist only as an abstract force, as Christian agape, Hindu bhakti, Buddhist maitri, Jewish ahavat chinam, Islamic rahma, or neognostic arelena – it also has its very concrete manifestation. It’s about interpersonal relationships. Relationships certainly have their visible, material, or physical aspect, which includes verbal communication and bodily interaction. Still, they also have a seemingly invisible, psycho-energetic, or immaterial aspect, which involves non-verbal communication or subtle energetic structures through which we connect with close people. As unconditional love is a universal force that gives life to all beings, we all have a need to receive it and give it. Such a need is blind and automatic; we cannot neglect, deny, or disconnect it. It is equal to the need for air, so try exercising your democratic right not to breathe for longer than a few minutes and see what the consequences are.
Besides interpersonal relationships themselves, my experience is (for which I have no more concrete confirmation than my own direct experience) that unconditional love is the source of the five elements in nature – fire, water, air, earth, and ether – and their corresponding emotional states:
- fire – enthusiasm (negative aspect – anger),
- water – joy (negative aspect – sadness),
- air – peace (negative aspect – fear),
- earth – innocence (negative aspect – guilt) and
- ether – consciousness (negative aspect – trance).
The elements are certainly visible not only through emotions but also as the building tissue of organic and inorganic matter – it is clear that fire, water, air, earth, and ether form the entire material universe and thus our physical bodies. Fire manifests as body heat, water makes up about 60% of our body, we breathe air, earth manifests through tissue, and ether through body cavities. And if we allow the possibility that elements, through their emotional aspect, are deeply connected to our reactions to receiving and giving (or not receiving and not giving) unconditional love, and that such love will decisively influence our mental and physical states. In that case, it is all the more evident that unconditional love is not only an abstract force but also has a whole range of concrete manifestations.
BASIC CHARACTERISTICS OF THE MERCIFUL ASPECT OF UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
However, let’s return to relationships so we can see how to express unconditional love to those with whom we are intimate, as well as to those with whom we are not. First, let me note that unconditional love has its two fundamental aspects – feminine and masculine, yin and yang, or merciful and unmerciful aspects. Let’s start with the merciful, as it is far better known, so let’s examine its characteristics. To love another person unconditionally in a merciful way would mean the following:
- accept them as they are;
- support them enthusiastically in their efforts, goals, and needs;
- give recognition to their successes;
- confirm their personality, regardless of successes or failures.
Here’s also a brief comment on these four fundamental expressions of unconditional love.
Acceptance
To accept a close person as they are, without imposing one’s own expectations or conditions for acceptance, means loving someone unconditionally. In contrast, conditional love requires the fulfillment of specific prerequisites for acceptance. If such requirements are not met, the one who sets the conditions becomes dissatisfied and usually starts with criticism, then continues with threats of rejection, and sometimes finally realizes these threats and breaks communication with the person who doesn’t satisfy their conditions. Therefore, to be able to accept another person as they are, including all their individual characteristics, and to tolerate and respect their differences, would mean loving them unconditionally.
Such acceptance is especially crucial in the parent-child relationship. Parents must understand that their child is an individual in their own right, who may or may not share their character traits, worldview, interests, and goals. The child enters the world as a being with its own character, as a soul to whom the parent has enabled embodiment, and will take care of it both physically and emotionally, giving it the best of themselves and then letting it be who and what it is, realizing its life’s mission. Children are not a tabula rasa that parents will program according to their expectations; they come to this planet with a pre-existing plan that may be related to the lives of their parents, but may also have absolutely nothing to do with them.
Therefore, it’s not realistic to expect a child to be our copy or to realize our unrealized ambitions, because “we gave them everything, and they return to us like that.” Such expectations are an expression of conditional love, which can psychologically terribly damage the child. For this reason, the parent must recognize who their child is, what aspects of the child are an expression of their original (and thus unchangeable) nature, their true being or self, and what weaknesses need to be corrected by setting certain conditions. Of course, such an effort requires self-improvement, taking on the necessary discipline and responsibility that will lead to a proper understanding of our own child. However, most parents are not ready for such work.
To condition a child’s acceptance only if they don’t express themselves and their will, only if they imitate our patterns of behavior and our worldview, is a direct path to what causal therapy calls “toxic connection,” or to creating limiting psycho-energetic patterns that will later result in emotional problems, creative non-fulfillment, and physical illness. Thus, the toxic connection is precisely the primary causal model underlying most human health problems, so with new clients, the causal therapist first clarifies the family map and dissolves limiting connections with family members.
Support
Furthermore, parents enthusiastically support the children in their endeavors, regardless of what they may be. Of course, we won’t support the child in destructive action, but to provide unconditional support to their person and work and allow the child to express themselves unhindered, to try the most diverse activities and gain the most varied experiences in order to finally “find themselves” and realize their life mission, would mean to love them unconditionally. Creative self-realization is the ultimate goal of human existence and the reason for incarnating in a human body on this planet. However, given that the path to self-realization is not always easy or straightforward, most children discover themselves, their affinities, and their life path gradually, through trial and error.
Rare are those who, in earliest childhood, show some talent, and then it becomes clear what they will do in life or which path and way of self-realization they have chosen. Finding a life mission is often a process similar to the domino effect – a person tries everything before discovering their true calling. If we hadn’t tried everything and thus understood what we don’t want, we probably would never have understood what we do want. Therefore, parents must know that their child may not immediately discover their life’s calling and path, and will likely go through a series of attempts and make numerous mistakes before understanding what they truly want and what they will dedicate themselves to completely. Of course, such tolerance and persistent support are what make the role of a parent extremely demanding and challenging; however, if parents want to fulfill their role successfully, they must work on themselves and systematically expand their capacities.
Recognition
To give recognition to a close person, in this case a child, when they do something good, understand something, or have a correct worldview, will enable them to accept and love themselves, to experience receiving recognition in the form of compliments as a normal thing, and also be able to give recognition to others, to rejoice in others’ successes. But how many families are there in which children never receive recognition? As someone who, among other things, has been dealing with family therapy for over three decades, I can say a few. We will far more often encounter unproductive criticism, particularly from parents who themselves never received recognition from their parents, so of course, they don’t know how to give it. To praise another person and express a compliment to them, as well as to receive a compliment from another, is not only normal and natural but also one of the fundamental ways to foster completely fulfilling relationships with others.
I must note that a compliment is not the same as flattery – a compliment is an expression of truth, real and objective recognition of someone’s quality. In contrast, flattery is a form of deception, where recognition is given to nonexistent qualities and successes of another person to gain their attention and then manipulate them. As you can see, all concepts and ideas in our lives can be interpreted in multiple ways, so most people are unaware of the true meaning of a particular concept. That’s why some consider giving compliments to be flattery, which it certainly is not, while others believe that too frequent praise will unnecessarily soften a person or feed their ego, which will develop too strongly and later morally ruin them. No, it won’t – children who don’t receive recognition are ruined by precisely that, and not by too much praise. Such people need to compensate for what they didn’t receive as children, so they become “complexed” as adults, and try to heal their complexes in the most diverse and crazy ways.
What I want to emphasize is that the need for love is the primary human need, sometimes stronger than the need for biological survival. We cannot ruin someone by “giving them too much love” – only a lack of love will do that. You will soon see the characteristics of the unmerciful aspect of unconditional love, so giving compliments doesn’t mean we won’t occasionally criticize a close person’s behavior if it is in any way destructive or conflicts with our life values. Of course, it’s necessary to find the golden mean between constant compliments and criticism, and fight for such a consciousness daily, trying to develop and maintain it. But most children don’t get enough compliments and recognition when it’s necessary for their emotional development. So let’s not be stingy with giving recognition; it doesn’t need to be reserved only for specific social rituals, like receiving a watch or a television upon retirement.
Confirmation
And finally, unconditional love of the merciful type can also be expressed by giving confirmation to another person that they are good as they are and that the value of their original nature, their self or soul, is not questionable even if they do nothing special in life. Confirmations like “You’re great, you can do it, I believe in you” are excellent motivators that give another person the much-desired wind in their sails, especially in crisis or critical life periods. Try to motivate your child with these words, rather than statements like “Don’t be lazy, you’re good-for-nothing, you’re not capable of this or that.” Actually, try both approaches and see which will give better results. Confirmation is important both when it comes to realizing specific projects and especially when it comes to realizing a life mission, because it requires a large amount of courage and faith in oneself and one’s path, regardless of anyone’s opinion.
No matter how much giving confirmation sometimes seems like an expression of excessive softness, just because we were perhaps raised in an emotionally hard and stingy way, it’s not about encouraging the child to develop their own weaknesses. For example, for me, an important, although non-verbal, expression of confirmation is to hug another person, just that much, and without any special reason. When it comes to children, it is to caress them. No, we won’t spoil them if they are caressed, but we will ruin them if they are not. Working with people on sorting out family relationships, I have heard sentences like “My parents never hugged me” too many times. I repeat – never! What do you think the consequences of such emotional coldness will be? None? Mild? No, such a person will be seriously emotionally damaged, which will be visible through their relationship with others and with themselves, and especially with their physicality and sexuality.
People often wonder at others when they see them socializing or being intimate, yet they obviously tolerate certain flaws in each other. They will often say, “Look at them, how great they are with each other,” or “Look at these two fools, how they support each other in their stupidities.” Are these two fools happier or unhappier than those who observe and judge them? Of course they are happier – they deserve to be, because they know that their essence, as it is, is perfect, and that no character weakness can overshadow it. Thus, confirmation is an expression of recognizing someone’s original nature, or the perfection of their true being. In this way, it is a kind of idealization of another person, as we are focused on the best aspects of them, at least in that moment. And there’s no harm in that; moreover, we, by noticing and confirming the best in another person, encourage that person to become aware of and more often express precisely that part of their being.
Although one should by no means neglect another person’s character flaws, I am all in for expressing unconditional love through seemingly irrational idealization of another person. Not all the time, of course, but at least occasionally. It is necessary to see in others their true being, their perfect essence, and not only the programs and patterns according to which they live. We often do this when we fall in love with someone, but then we tend to neglect everything else and see the other person only in an idealized light and version. Although such a picture should be systematically supplemented with real facts, I don’t consider falling in love either infantile or harmful. On the contrary, I believe it is a necessary element of interpersonal relationships, both in partnerships and in all other contexts. Of course, if it’s well-balanced with the unmerciful aspects of unconditional love.
BASIC CHARACTERISTICS OF THE UNMERCIFUL ASPECT OF UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
Here are the characteristics of the unmerciful aspect:
- love for oneself;
- setting boundaries;
- setting rules;
- constructive criticism of others’ behavior.
Love for Oneself
It is interesting that during discussions about unconditional love, self-love is very rarely mentioned. However, the only existing relationship is not the one towards external objects – there is also a relationship towards oneself. One should love oneself as others, although the level of consciousness of today’s people is such that it’s necessary to persistently emphasize to them to “love your neighbor as yourself.” Many people are incredibly selfish, self-centered, even narcissistic, and think that the world revolves only and exclusively around them. Such people didn’t receive enough merciful love from their parents and now compensate for it with their egoism. And yet, unconditional love for oneself is not about any egoistic self-love, but rather about unconditional acceptance and respect for oneself, as well as internal support for one’s goals, which reflects faith in oneself and an awareness of the purpose of one’s own existence. Such love leads directly to creative self-realization, and for precisely this reason, it is both important and necessary.
Moreover, love for oneself should be in first place for us, which means that everyone must be the center of their own world. The center cannot be someone else, nor should our lives revolve around others. Yet many people’s lives revolve primarily around others because they are irrelevant to themselves. They will sometimes think of themselves as particularly noble, unselfish, and compassionate because of this, which may even be partially true. However, self-love is lacking, which prevents a person from being mentally healthy and thus from realizing their full potential. Therefore, it’s worth knowing what it would concretely mean to be noble, unselfish, and compassionate, but not only towards others, but also towards oneself.
Why is it necessary to be the center of one’s own world? Because only someone who is able to love themselves can love others. Only someone who can help themselves can help others. Only someone who has realized themselves can teach others to realize themselves. Only someone who is themselves healthy can heal others or point them to paths to health. What do you think is the reason why, in airplane instructions for cases of oxygen loss, it says to put the mask on ourselves first, especially if we are traveling with children? So, not first on the child, as zealous parents might think at first, because who will put the mask on the child if the parent falls unconscious?
Parents who believe they must completely subordinate their life to the child, or “sacrifice themselves for the child,” and constantly let them know this both verbally and non-verbally, make a big mistake because they teach the child how to be a victim. Parents often sacrifice part of their freedom, peace, and personal realization to raise children, so they can be seen as “victims” in a certain way, just as anyone who completely dedicates themselves to their goals is a kind of victim of their ambition. And given that a person also possesses an unconscious mind that absorbs information spontaneously and automatically, children absorb all the non-verbal communication of their parents, all their emotional and mental patterns. Or, more concretely, they observe how we live, not just what we tell them, and imitate our models of reacting and behaving. Therefore, parents must also consider their own happiness, satisfaction, and fulfillment to teach their children how to be happy, satisfied, and fulfilled in the same way.
Setting Boundaries
Setting boundaries is also an expression of love for oneself. In this way, we protect our own integrity and don’t allow any compromise with it. Although the concept of “integrity” is mentioned and respected far more often when discussing entities broader than the individual, such as the borders and territorial integrity of a country, our personal integrity also needs to be protected. We achieve this by setting boundaries and ensuring they are respected. This concretely means that we clearly present to others what the prerequisites are for our relationship with them, if they themselves don’t possess the culture of respecting others’ integrity. And if they continue to threaten our integrity persistently, we have every right to express anger and say the historical “No!”
Here we see that setting conditions doesn’t always have to be an expression of non-love; precisely setting conditions is the foundation of the unmerciful aspect of unconditional love. Someone will probably ask why we then use the term “unconditional love” when the primary characteristic of the unmerciful aspect is establishing prerequisites for a relationship. However, there’s no contradiction here – we should set conditions for someone’s behavior, not for love as such. Love is, as its very name says, unconditional, but tolerance of someone’s behavior, especially when it’s destructive, doesn’t have to be.
Suppose we have a person with an addiction in the family who is destroying themselves and everyone around them with their problematic behavior. How will we express unconditional love to such a person? By buying them drugs or giving them money for gambling? No, by setting firm boundaries and conditions for the relationship and confronting the person with their problem. We will criticize their behavior, not them and their personality. “Because I love you, I must tell you that your behavior in such-and-such context is completely unacceptable to me. Therefore, I demand that you change it. If you don’t do this, the consequences will be such-and-such.” But people do lots of things “for peace in the house,” and sometimes spend their whole life in denial. Too bad, because they miss a unique opportunity to simultaneously protect their integrity and help another person do the healthiest possible thing – face the truth about themselves and do something about it.
Setting Rules
If we take the parent-child relationship as an example, then a parent who wants their child to grow up into a considerate person, aware of their own and others’ boundaries, sets rules for the child and demands that they respect them. Such a parent is by no means strict, but only does what is necessary for the child’s development. Although the child may seem to rebel against rules and resent them, and may sometimes even cry and scream, the child actually needs rules and actually craves them. Of course, it is good that parents primarily love their child mercifully, that they are tolerant and friendly, but the parent needs to be mainly a parent to the child, not a friend. Therefore, one of the primary characteristics of the parent role is precisely the ability to set rules and demand that they be respected. Such rules give the child a sense of security and protection, or a framework within which they must find a way to bring out the best in themselves.
I know people who raised their children very liberally, with the best intentions, but somewhat confused the role of parent with that of friend. Their children didn’t have adequate respect for their parents and burdened them with themselves until late at night, deprived them of the right to rest and have time for themselves, and gradually became selfish, not to say narcissistic, which greatly frustrated these parents. Some of these children, to the great surprise of their parents, sometimes even demanded that their parents forbid them something so that they wouldn’t stand out from other children at school. Those of us who now belong to the older generation were often raised in a too strict way, with countless unnecessary prohibitions, but that still doesn’t mean we now have to allow our children everything they fancy and not set any rules for our little miracles.
Choosing rules for each specific situation and the child’s age is not always a simple process. It regularly requires effort that most parents are not ready for. Sometimes a simple request conveys a clear enough message, and sometimes it takes some drastic reaction, such as punishment or even “throwing out of the house.” Singer and songwriter Jay Kay, from the famous English band Jamiroquai, exhibited such impossible behavior that his single mother threw him out of the house at the age of 17. Today, he claims that this was the best thing she could have done for him and is endlessly grateful to her. He himself realized that he was totally undisciplined and that his mother had no other choice. So, it was precisely such an action that led him to “get his shit together”, as Quincy Jones would say, and strive towards self-realization. There are always ways; we just have to make an effort to find them.
It’s also necessary to set rules in all other types of relationships. A sensitive person will understand what bothers someone or doesn’t suit them, what life rules they follow, what they allow, and what they don’t, and will try to respect such rules if they want to maintain the relationship. And if someone persistently fails to do this, then we have every right to express unmerciful love and oppose their behavior, meaning clearly communicate what bothers us and what we want them to respect. The way we do this must be thoughtful, not impulsive and hasty, so that communication reaches the other person. But what to do if the other person persistently doesn’t respect our life rules? We may need to break off communication and withdraw from the relationship. There are other people on the planet, thank God, and there will always be a sufficient number of those who want to understand us.
Constructive Criticism of Others’ Behavior
When someone violates your integrity, it is easiest to attack that person or cut them off, send them to hell, and then nicely vent on them. But will such information reach the person? Are we going to establish the necessary communication channel that will enable the person to hear us, understand, accept the criticism, and change their behavior immediately? Sometimes they will; at other times, decibels are necessary because there are people who don’t hear unless someone yells at them properly. However, in most cases, they won’t hear us; moreover, yelling will have a counterproductive effect. How, then, can criticism be expressed so that it reaches the other person?
I don’t have a pre-made template for such a thing – each person and situation requires a special approach. So, it is essential to dedicate time and energy to developing a tailored strategy for each specific situation. There is a good reason why the concepts of war strategy and tactics exist and are studied at military academies, why Sun Tzu’s collection of texts, The Art of War, is studied in business circles, and why Zen devotees sometimes meditate for days on the topic of how to act in conflict situations. Since even ordinary criticism sometimes produces a state of war between two people, such a conflict will have to be resolved with a particular strategy, no less similar to a military one. And determining the appropriate strategy is not always easy.
However, there are also some basic guidelines, and I’ve already mentioned the main one – it is not the person who is criticized, but their behavior. Furthermore, criticism should be shaped so that the person understands what we’re criticizing. They should feel that the criticism does not come from hatred, but from a genuine concern for their well-being. I know, it sounds a bit cheesy, but that’s how it is. Therefore, it is beneficial to begin criticism by expressing one or two compliments, so the person understands that we are also aware of their positive aspects. After expressing criticism, it’s not a bad idea to add a few compliments, again, so the person apprehends that we’re acting from love, but also so that one unpleasant situation doesn’t end bitterly. There are also many courses today that train you for expressing criticism and communicating constructively (for example, Rosenberg’s Non-Violent Communication methodology). So, there are tools; we just need to have the will to apply them.
Since there are also perfect examples of this kind of mastery, I will conclude this article by retelling a Zen story about the Japanese poet-monk Ryokan (1758-1831) and his nephew.
Ryokan heard from his relatives that his nephew was spending the money inherited from his recently deceased parents on sake and geishas, and that he would soon completely squander the family property. The relatives asked Ryokan to intervene because the nephew had ignored all their pleas to stop such behavior.
Despite living as a hermit in the mountains, Ryokan set off on foot on a long journey to visit his nephew, whom he hadn’t seen for years. Arriving at his house, he pretended that he was accidentally passing through his town on the way to another place, and as night was falling, his nephew invited him to stay and prepared a lavish dinner. During dinner, they talked about all kinds of things, but Ryokan still didn’t say a single word about why he had come.
After dinner, they drank tea, and Ryokan still said nothing. They then went to sleep, but Ryokan hadn’t slept a wink. Instead, he spent the whole night in meditation. In the morning, during breakfast, he again said nothing to his nephew about his behavior. But upon leaving, trying to put on his sandals, Ryokan pretended weakness and addressed him with a request: “I must be getting old, my hands shake badly. Will you help me tie the strings on my straw sandals?”
The nephew willingly helped him, and Ryokan thanked him and said, “You see, a person becomes older and more helpless from day to day. So take care of yourself.” And then he left, still not mentioning the family complaints. However, legend has it that from that morning onwards, his nephew completely stopped squandering the family inheritance.
This story is an excellent example of the skillful use of practical means in Zen teachings, as well as conscious and dedicated action. It wasn’t difficult for Ryokan to walk to the town where his nephew lived and then stay the whole night in meditation to find an appropriate solution. He conveyed his message through his presence and the subtle demonstration of transience, rather than through direct confrontation or lectures. By showing frailty and asking for help, he gently reminded his nephew of the passage of time and the importance of taking care of oneself. And that was all that was needed for his communication to reach his nephew.
That’s how masters do it, and it’s up to us to learn from and follow their examples. I wish you all the best in finding balance between the merciful and unmerciful aspects of unconditional love. Although our action may not be perfect immediately, even the attempt itself is worth its weight in gold.
Tomislav Budak, September 2025.