IDENTIFICATIONS DISSOLVING – Deep integration work
We continue to deal with family dynamics at the third level, but now at the deepest possible level. After the family map is settled, we start dissolving identifications. They represent an even deeper and more complex form of connection with family members. Namely, every child learns from parents and other family members and imitates their behavior and reactions – both what the parents want to pass on to the child and all other types of family patterns that belong to the unconscious. Although parents would like the child to develop only desirable and positive traits, if he grows up with parents who teach him undesirable or harmful reactions through their daily example, the child will adopt such responses to connect even more deeply with them. Considering that the child’s primary need is love, the strongest connection with his parents, he will connect in all available ways – by imitating the parent’s constructive and destructive traits.
For example, many parents “sacrifice themselves for the child.” Of course, the responsibility of parents is enormous, and a quality parent in the developmental stage of his child does not have complete freedom to do what he wants, that is, to dedicate himself only to himself. But what does the victim-parent teach his child? Among other things, to be a victim. If we go a step further, in many families, there is a far more visible victim-tyrant dynamic, where one of the parents is in one role and the other in the other. Willingly or not, the child will consciously or unconsciously take on this dynamic as his pattern of behavior and thinking. Such a pattern will further influence the child’s life by attracting circumstances by the adopted programs. A child, or later an adult, will think that undesirable life circumstances are his “destiny,” but they are not – they are the consequences of his programming, unconscious patterns that he adopted at an early stage of his development, up to the age of seven at the latest.
For this reason, dissolving identifications is sometimes a crucial and life-changing process by which we free ourselves from deep-rooted limiting influences that sometimes wholly control our lives without us even being aware of it. The amount of freedom that can be gained through these processes is so significant that most people who go through them feel like they have been reborn. Of course, every new freedom is accompanied by the inevitable assumption of greater responsibility for oneself and one’s life and the necessary discipline required for one’s creative realization. But freedom has no price; it is the ultimate need of the human soul, which comes into every incarnation to realize its original approach and deepest inner aspirations. Freedom from limiting identifications is one of the more important achievements that enable personal fulfillment.
TOPICS COVERED ON LEVEL 3
- New discreation formula – quicker, shorter, and simpler
- Stabilizing the experience of empty and clear consciousness
- Theory and practice on dissolving five basic identifications
- Corrections on systemic anomalies within the family – dissolving limiting bonds with the family as a whole
- Continuation of work on discovering life mission – finding family dharma